April Week 4: SELF-CONTROL – Discipline That Builds Black Belt Character

"What lies in our power to do, it also lies in our power not to do." – Aristotle

At Lewis Karate in Barrie, we believe that real power lies in restraint, not in reaction. As the #1 ranked Karate school for kids, adults, and families in Barrie, we make it our mission to help students of all ages understand and apply the principle of self-control—on the mats, in the classroom, and throughout life.

Self-control, or self-discipline, is what helps us stay true to our values and goals—even when emotions run high. Whether you’re five or fifty, mastering your impulses can change your behavior, relationships, and future.

What Is Self-Control?

Self-control is the ability to:

✅ Manage your emotions

✅ Think before you act

✅ Resist distractions or temptations

✅ Make decisions that reflect your best self

In Karate, it means keeping your composure during sparring, following class instructions without being reminded, and pushing through hard drills without quitting.

In everyday life, it might look like:

  • Finishing your homework before playing games
  • Walking away from conflict instead of reacting in anger
  • Speaking kindly when you feel frustrated

Every moment is an opportunity to lead your life with intention instead of being driven by reaction.

Why Self-Control Matters in Karate & Beyond

At Lewis Karate Barrie, self-control is at the heart of everything we teach because it leads to:

✔️ Better focus and learning

✔️ Improved relationships with family and peers

✔️ Greater success in school, work, and training

✔️ Stronger emotional maturity and leadership

Without it, students can fall into impulsive habits, mood-driven decisions, or lack of follow-through. But with it, they gain confidence, clarity, and strength in every area of life.

Where We Practice Self-Control in Every Class

🥋 Respectful line-ups and bows – Teaching patience and courtesy

🔥 Challenging drills – Students learn to breathe, stay calm, and push forward when tired

🤝 Partner training – Demands focus, safety, and mutual respect

🧠 Sparring control – Encourages precision and restraint, not aggression

These routines build habits of self-regulation that extend into classrooms, homes, and the real world.

The Impact of Poor Self-Control

When self-control is weak, we see things like:

  • Interrupting or acting out during class
  • Talking back at home or school
  • Quitting when something gets difficult
  • Blaming others instead of taking ownership

These behaviors might seem small, but they become habits—and Karate is the antidote to those habits.

How to Strengthen Self-Control

We teach our students that building self-control starts with a few simple steps:

1. Identify the area where control is lacking.

Is it emotional outbursts? Procrastination? Impulsiveness?

2. Recognize the emotion that drives it.

Anger, fear, boredom, or insecurity?

3. Find the thought that fuels that emotion.

“I’m not good at this.” “They always get their way.” “It’s not fair.”

4. Replace it with a self-affirmation.

🧠 “I am calm and focused.”

🧠 “I choose to stay in control.”

🧠 “I am strong enough to do the right thing.”

This mindset shift helps students replace negative habits with productive actions.

Ask Your Child (or Yourself):

  1. Where do you struggle most with self-control—at school, at home, or during training?
  2. What emotions lead to those struggles?
  3. What is one affirmation you can say to help you stay focused and calm?

These questions promote reflection, accountability, and growth, all of which are part of black belt character.

Why Self-Control Leads to Leadership

Students who build self-control are the ones who:

✔️ Lead others by example

✔️ Handle pressure with grace

✔️ Make consistent, responsible decisions

✔️ Take ownership of their actions

That’s why we say every black belt begins with emotional discipline. It’s not just what you can do—it’s what you choose not to do that shows real power.

Real-Life Wins Our Families See

Parents often tell us their kids are:

  • More cooperative at home
  • More focused at school
  • Quicker to calm down
  • Better at handling peer pressure

Adults report that they:

  • Manage work stress more effectively
  • Improve time management
  • Feel more confident in handling conflict
  • Follow through better on health and fitness goals

That’s the ripple effect of consistent training and structured support.

Self-Control Challenge of the Week

We challenge every student to take these steps:

📍 Choose one behavior to improve (e.g., procrastination, overreacting, quitting early)

🧠 Identify the thought and emotion behind it

📣 Write one affirmation to say every morning for a week

📅 Reflect at the end of the week—What changed?

This practice builds internal awareness and external discipline.

Karate as the Path to Self-Mastery

At Lewis Karate Barrie, we don’t just build better athletes—we build better people. Through every kata, combination, and moment of feedback, our students grow in maturity, respect, and strength.

If you want to help your child (or yourself) become more focused, more respectful, and more in control of their behavior and goals, join the #1 ranked Karate school for kids, adults, and families in Barrie today.

– Shihan Trevor Lewis, 7th Degree Black Belt